“They all say, ‘live your dreams kid’, but they’re the first to kick you out the door…”
Crobot said it best…
And you want to know something? Its completely true.
What you’re about to read is a statement of assertion. A declaration of a dream. A love poem to my band and a big middle finger to all the haters. I really should be posting the second installment of our article, The Ever-Changing Music Industry, which will be coming soon, but I just had to address something that I view with just as much importance, if not more. This is something I have to put a name to. For my own sanity. In short, I really, REALLY need to get some shit off my chest.
I had my doubts about posting something like this so soon. Is it too personal? Is it the right time? To be honest, I don’t know, but I decided FUCK IT. I’m going to post it anyway. Because its significant. So many people are scared to post that article, video, or write that song and perform it or whatever but at the end of the day, you just have to fucking do it. Just whip your dick out.
(not literally obviously, I’m working a metaphorical angle here dude. And I also don’t have a dick BUT I do know I have some of the biggest balls out of all the people I know…metaphorically of course..)
And in the end, this little post could really help someone through whatever doubt they might be working through. SOOOOOO, here we go…
As a rumbustious child, I was raised to believe, if I wanted something bad enough and if I worked hard enough and took the necessary steps I could accomplish anything I set my mind to. That I had the very power to bend and manipulate the world to my will. That I could create the world I desired for myself. These principles were instilled in me at a very young age. And as my passion for music grew and grew, I was offered a support system like no other. And thinking back on it now, I was so totally fortunate to find myself surrounded by such a loving and supportive group of people who were personally dedicated to my growth and development as my own person.
They gave me the conviction I needed to stand up for what I want and believe in. Which might explain why I find it ironic to be facing criticism today. Criticism from all walks of life. From individuals that hardly know me to people I love and have known all my life. Friends, family, acquaintances and strangers alike. Everyone likes to tell you how you should be doing things, while hardly knowing what to do themselves, or, better yet, not even accomplishing any of the things you have set out to accomplish. OR, in the very least, accomplish similar freedoms in the fashion you choose to do so. And its equal parts frustrating, confusing, ironic, and funny.
Its an interesting thing to be aware of. Everyone tells you to follow your dreams and do what inspires you but as you get more invested into your craft people feel more inclined to change their tune. It happens all the time. And what helps me through it is knowing that every person I idolize has been through it as well. Every single one of them. From Jeff Buckley to Jordan Belfort, they’ve all been told “no, don’t do that..”. And its almost become like a stamp of approval, you know? Like the only way you really know that you’re on to something great is when people criticize and offer “advice” on what you should be doing.
So if every successful person I aspire to emulate(to many varying degrees) has been through all the doubt, of course my experience wouldn’t be any different. And in a way, I feel even more connected, not only to them but to my vision and the knowledge that I WILL make it a reality and reach all my goals. And not only will I go above and beyond what is expected but I’ll do it in a shorter span of time than it takes most people to graduate from a prestigious college. And why am I so sure of this? Because I know I’m the master of my own destiny. All the tools to accomplish this are at my disposal. Just as much as they are at yours.
Its just funny how much flak people give you for following your fight or flight instincts.
And if its not flak they’re offering, its a shit ton of useless advice..
Well maybe its not ALL useless but it seems that way because, if you think about it, these people who are adamant about offering their two cents have never tried to do what you are trying to do. They’re average people, with average standards and average ideas. And you know what, thats totally okay. Dreaming big isn’t for everyone. You need nerves of steel. Its not for the faint of heart.
There is nothing wrong with having an average standard of living, considering there are so many people in the world with close to nothing. And, in general, we should all be grateful for even being alive. But thats not necessarily what this is about.
Don’t take this the wrong way. I don’t consider myself better than anyone. I don’t think I’m a gift from above or whatever else some trolls might be thinking right now. I’m just striving for the life I want, just like anyone else. In fact, I’m living the life I want right now, in this very moment. The fact that I might not be getting the results instantly doesn’t make a difference to me. And you want to know why? Because I love what I’m doing. It gives me a sense of purpose and fulfillment. I love the process. It gives me a reason to get up every morning. I love striving for my standards and keeping them high. We all have standards of living we deem necessary. Its just some of us have higher standards (bigger ideas) than others.
So I’m not saying theres something wrong with having a specific set of standards. However, what I am saying is its wrong for people to try and push their ideas onto you. Its wrong of people to condemn and label you as a lost cause because you don’t want the norm. Its wrong of people to try and “correct” your natural path in life. As if they’re a religious sect who believes the road to damnation is going your own way.
Believe what I believe or die! I’m right you’re wrong.
I’m getting a little off topic here but fuck it. Its somehow all relevant regardless. The point I’m trying to make here is people are fundamentally insane and can’t help but push their lifestyle on others to validate their life choices. And I think these reservations stem from really only two things. The first being the possibility that some people just simply never wanted to strike out on their own the same way. That the biggest goal they had was to get married and have kids and live a “stable” life or whatever ya’ll average motherfuckers dream about.
The second being that each person condemning your choices was once a young child themselves with all the dreams in the world, that eventually dealt with the same adversity and gave into the doubt. They demean your dedication to your vision because it reflects their lack of commitment to there’s. Assuming they even HAD a vision because lets face it, most people don’t.
And I’m talking about SERIOUS vision with SERIOUS talent backing it. Where you can talk the talk AND walk the walk. I’m not talking about Dee Reynolds wanting to be an actress since she was a little girl…
I’m talking about people with real promise, potential, commitment…and maybe not fictional characters on It’s Always Sunny.. But you see what I’m getting at.
People will say “You have to do what your passionate about. You have to follow your passion..” but at the same time they’ll turn around and say “Don’t do that! Thats risky..”
Very Contradicting, no?
Or my favorite, “do what you love on the side after you get a stable job…”
Go to school. Get a degree. Climb the corporate ladder, work on your dreams as a hobby. You can’t make money off that. You need benefits, you need this, you need that. You don’t see it now because you’re young. Blah, blah, blah.
And here I thought the reason NOW was the perfect time to go for my vision was BECAUSE I’m young…. silly me…
The whole ‘work on your dreams on the side’ talk use to really upset me. But nowadays I understand that the people that say that sort of thing just don’t get it. And they don’t really care to get it. Because it makes them uncomfortable. Its just the nature of people and the nature of the game. It all comes with the territory.
“everybody’s just a stranger but thats the danger of going my own way…”-John Mayer, Why Georgia
To better demonstrate where I’m coming from, here are some quotes from badass motherfuckers who made their own way in life:
“You have to believe there’s no reason for a plan B because it distracts from plan A” -Will Smith
“The person who gets the farthest is generally the one who is willing to do the dare. The sure-thing boat never gets far from the shore.”- Dale Carnegie
“In a world that’s changing really quickly, the only strategy that is guaranteed to fail is not taking risks.”- Mark Zuckerberg
“Your time is limited so don’t waste it living someone else’s life.”-Steve Jobs
“Lose your dreams and you might lose your mind”-Mick Jagger
“Too many of us are not living our dreams because we’re too busy living our fears. Most people fail in life not because they aim too high and miss, but because they aim to low and hit”- Les Brown
Everyone knows to follow their passion but so very few people do it. Why? Because its hard to follow your passion and easy to let people push you off track. And yeah, of course its hard, but when you wake up everyday with a sense of purpose, a sense of immense joy and love for what you’re doing, the hardships don’t matter. They just don’t. Fucking. Matter. One of the best quotes I’ve come across pertains to this very thought:
All of the bullshit is just part of the process. And you have to love and respect that. You have to love and respect the here and now. Not look to the future for happiness, or the past for an identity, but exist solely in the present. For the HERE and NOW. For the journey. THE PROCESS. And once you do that, ignorning all the bullshit is easy. Letting go of things which truely do not matter becomes effortless.
So what I wish for you to take from this post is…well a lot of things really. But at the very least, I hope you feel inspired. Inspired to find what you truely love (if you don’t already know), be the best at it and follow the path of your dreams. Forget all the Negative Nancys out there and just do you. Be consistent and good things will come. Don’t argue with people that don’t get it. Don’t resent anyone who doesn’t get it and don’t give in to the people who don’t get it. Learn to truely let go of the shit that does not matter, live for the process, and accept the here and now. Do this, and you will be way ahead of most people my friend.